Michele Coleman, Ph. D. LMFT
As we move into the holiday season it is essential that we focus on our self-care routines. This is the time of year that most of us are focused on providing for others and as a result we seem to fall to the bottom of the list. I invite you to fill your internal reservoir first so you have something from which to dip in order to give to others. A novel concept I know, especially in our fast-paced society.
When your child moves into your home you will be glad you invested some time in learning how to take care of yourself first. Our children take from us regardless of whether or not we are resourced. If we hope to be the change agent in their lives, it is essential we be on our A game.
One essential component of self-care is sleep. I invite you to watch the TED Talk by Russell Foster, Why Do We Sleep? If you prefer reading, then check out Shawn Stevenson’s book, Sleep Smarter. Both of these resources highlight not only the benefits but also the costs of not making sleep a priority in our lives.
As the parent, the adults in charge of our family it is essential that we be the ones to set the tone for the family expression. The tone I set when I am resourced, after a good night’s sleep, is very different than the tone I set when I am exhausted, sleep deprived, and stressed on top of that shaky foundation. Together, over this next month, let’s focus on setting ourselves up for success as we prepare to invite others into our home. I for one want others to experience my home as a relaxed, loving environment. How about you?